As-Salaamu-Alaikum,
As a stay at home mom, I truly look for and treasure those moments when my children go down for their naps. In the Qur’an there is a reference Allah makes to the mercy of night (time) and of sleep. That has to be for the comfort of mothers! Because when they go down, I can have a break. Mentally, physically, spiritually a break. The problem we’re running into now is that they have decided (cunningly) to take their naps in shifts. Today she went down for a nice long 2.5 hour nap…WOW. But he is still fighting it, and hour and a half after she woke up. He is fussy and sleepy and ready for his nap, way-way-way too close to his bedtime and she’s wide awake. I really wish they would coordinate this better and get in sync. I have been advised to just put them both down at the same time until they are on the same sleep schedule. But the only way to achieve that is if I lay down too! Then I get a nap (that is well needed,but I don’t get any work done…AARGH. LOL
I guess part of the reason I put up with this, is because I do enjoy my alone times them. Sad but true. I rarely get the chance to just enjoy them as individuals and give each one my undivided attention. So this crazy nap schedule in a way it works for us. They each get that undivided mommy time and they and I love it. I guess its the price I pay for these treasured times.
March 19, 2008
My darling Ali. He is my precious, my sweetheart, my baby, my love. He is also two and is not weaned! I seriously thought about making him go cold turkey when he turned two on Jan 24th. But I decided against it because I thought it would be cruel. After all he doesn’t know that he’s been at this way WAY too long. I have been told; just try cutting out one feeding a day. That didn’t work because he would give it up and then when I was working on another feeding at a different time he returned to the old feeding.
I know people will say I need to be firm, after all he can’t force himself on me. But we are talking about a child who chases me through the house yelling “SIT!” Crying and screaming for his milk. I mean MY milk. I guess I just don’t have enough back bone to shut him off completely. The problem is not so much the temper tantrums he has when he can’t get it; but what slays me every time is the hurt puppy look in his eyes when he is denied. He looks as if I have just put him out in the cold and told him to never come back.
What to do, what to do? I’ve tried all kinds of milkshakes, ice creams and snacks that he enjoys to divert him away….but at the end of the day he always comes back. It does work if we spend our day out away from the house but at night…fughettaboutit! I’m at my wits (and breasts) end. Is there any compassionate and easy way to wean him or am I just going to have to live with the betrayal and wrath he will launch at me until it’s over? Ya Allah(Oh my God) …I hope not.
March 18, 2008
As-Salaamu-Alaikum,
I can’t tell you the joy I feel at being a mommy. I came to motherhood late in life so for me I felt doubly blessed. (Al-Hamdulillah -Praise be to God) Just a couple of years before my daughter was born I was advised by several doctors to have a complete hysterectomy and was told in no uncertain terms that I was too old, and because of medical problems too unhealthy to ever carry a baby to term. (I will explain more about this later - in a special series I will title “flashbacks-) But I put my faith in Allah (God) and two years later my daughter was born, healthy, naturally and with no problems. And all the praise goes to Allah, who I know makes ALL THINGS POSSIBLE.
Possible but not always easy:) It has been a humbling,thrilling, funny, frustrating, touching, crazy, wondrous, fulfilling, exasperating, learning experience that I can’t believe I am still just in the beginning stages of completing. Wait, did I say complete?! No way, it will never be complete…I’ll always be mommy. Just as my mom is, this experience has made me value and appreciate her and all mothers so much. So I’m starting this blog to share this wonderful journey and also to meet others on the same path. Share with you, learn from you, and hopefully we can help each other to raise children who will please Allah, contribute to this Ummah (Muslim community) and to all of society as well. May Allah bless with the tawfiq (ability to do a job well) to be good Muslim Mommies!
March 17, 2008
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March 17, 2008
